Countering a sense of excessive expectations in life
What are the odds? we live in a whole wide world where everything becomes so easy to look into. We find new temptation every single day until it consumes us. And yet, what we all find is ourselves only — hoping that those dreams are here to be taken from the table. These are for the ones who survives a peculiarity, which by the way it doesn’t happen to all people out there. For the ones who felt grief, hopefulness but unfaithful towards their ability in life. I will write your story.
Life in the internet might be an exciting, light and lively thing to do. I mean we all do and we’re subconsciously admitting that. But there is this one point where you feel like you’ve done so much but still you haven’t got to anywhere, good life, i suppose. One time we could realize that we have already in a secure place because we have entered the college, or get in high school — which not everyone could have the same opportunity as ours. The next time, there are this individual who stood right there, firmly, proving that our existence and accomplishment is no other than an ordinary state. This is what drives you mad, filled with anger, jealousy, dissatisfaction and most of all; selfish. I meant for all the days that we’ve past, that requires us to struggle and work hard as much as possible to be where we are right now.
Say that we are pursuing for a work opportunity, or a job but then your wage or responsibilities is not as great as you hope. Take a pause in that moment, reflect on yourself a little bit — why did i only get this? what is the reason for them to not giving me more benefit? do i worth enough? Question yourself every time. Ask more. We never know what’s really happen and what the future may take for us so it’s only right to manifest ourselves by revisiting our choices. It’s not about what is wrong and right, but instead evaluate.
Second thing is we knew most of our life expectations is coming from other people, be it in real life or social media. Everything is so vivid and bright as we all recognizing that we compare people’s life to ours. It is tough to keep on living a life where everything is indirectly influenced by other people’s way of living, or thinking. That includes their lifestyle, their friends, job, luxury or achievement whatsoever. But the next thing you knew you’re wasting your time, you’re gonna stop it. Erasing that toxicity thoroughly is almost impossible but it is an obligation. Start from doing small things such as deleting their profile, getting away from their Instagram pages, find some more motivating accounts to look, and listen to some music. Heal yourself.
Overriding ambitions sounds humane for people out there. the desire for having more, more and more. it is what happens in society these days. people will do anything just for the sake of fulfilling their needs — expectation. So what we’re gonna do is to let low what brings us to our position right now, there are portion, and limits. Even the ones who reaches the sky are still having their moment to fall down. Let loose of what we’ve achieve right now by spending time with our loved ones. Expectancy will be less burdening or tough if we’re aware that who keeps us safe and sound is those people around us, that people who will wake you up in the morning, bang your door and said “Hey, get your breakfast before you go” or “What should we get for dinner?” all these small conversations that remains until forever.
The last thing of i’m about tell you is that, among billions of people out there, hundreds of unvisited foreign lands, tons of opportunities that could’ve come right in front of you by now — there is no way you can’t reach that imaginary phase of life. It will happen for sure, you just have to explore, put efforts and don’t let the laughs and glamour outshines you — make it for you and only yourself but also make people around you happy. That is what keeps you sane.
Love,
N.
